But, there is this lady at my current office who just came back off maternity leave and cried the entire day because she she just wants to be a stay-at-home mom. She says she and her husband can afford for her to stay at home, but, it would be much tighter without her income. So, she said that she was going home last night to put together a spreadsheet detailing their finances to show him that she could stay home. I don't get it all. Now, I am not saying that there is something wrong with being a stay-at-home mom...but, that's just never been my dream.
After all of the drama with the coworker, I called my mom and asked her if she had any first-day-away-from-baby-anxiety and she said she didn't. I imagine that is how I will be. I don't see myself weeping or dying to be at home to raise my children. While I will love them and be a fabulous mom, I still believe that I can do both. I can have the career that I dream of and a great home life without giving up on the one.
I am not sure why women who sacrifice their own dreams and ambitions to raise their children gets under my skin so much...I guess it just goes back to the days when women were to be seen and not heard and our biggest priorities were getting a hot meal on the table before the hubby got home. Well, I'm sorry...I will not settle for that. This is not the 1950s and dammit, I won't be baking no damn cookies. I am so exhausted with seeing this happen to women who are the same age as me...they have a baby and completely let go of any ambition they had before. It just makes me sad to think what they could have been.
Now my disclaimer: I am single with no kids, so maybe I just don't get it yet...I doubt it...but, maybe!
3 comments:
Please don't hate me when I quit being a doctor to be a SAHM!
I cried like a baby my first day back after having my youngest. I wanted to be with her more than I wanted to teach other people's children.
lol..no comments, but that's too funny!
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